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The Mayonnaise Jar

When things in your life seem, almost too much to handle. When 24 Hours in a day is not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began wordlessly, He picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students, if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar.

He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.


The professor next picked up a box of sandand poured it into the jar.
Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous 'yes!'

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed. "Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "want you to recognize that this jar represents your life."

The golf balls are the important things - family, children, health, Friends, and Favorite passions - Things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, Your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, house, and car.

The sand is everything else--the small stuff.

"If you put the sand into the jar first" he continued. "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, the you will never have room for the things that are important to you."

So ... please pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play With your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. "Take care of the golf balls first -- the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.'"

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked." It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.'


*Please share this with other "Golf Balls"


Sumber: http://us.mg4.mail.yahoo.com/dc/launch?.gx=1&.rand=44d6r3eoo3tjc


Ketika keikhlasanku bercampur-baur, dengan kelelahan hati, harga diri yang terinjak, kekesalan yang tak penting karena tak ingin cemburu, membuatku harus fokus pada The All Mighty belaka. Tugasku sebagai seorang Ibu hanya tinggal sebentar lagi. Tapi... bukankah bukan hanya kita yang takut kehilangan suami? Bukankah didalam hubungan cinta yang egalitair suami juga harus takut kehilangan istri?

Semuanya pasti ada jalan keluarnya! Dunia ini tidak 'selebar daun kelor,' saya harus mampu bangkit dan menata diri lagi untuk tetap masa depan yang telah tinggal sedikit lagi ini--kembali menjadi diri sendiri!--walaupun status sebagai istri dari suami yang kita cintai sedapat mungkin dipertahankan. Tentu memuliakan serta memprioritaskan perkawinan sah sebagai bola golf yang ada didalam toples mayonaise dalam cerita sang profesor tersebut diatas.

Insya Allah tidak harus ada perceraian, yang dilaknat oleh Allah Azza wa Jalla namun dibolehkan bilamana memang sudah tidak ada jalan keluarnya!